FINANCIAL SUPPORT IN PARTNERSHIP

Joy is in communicating from an empowered space when sharing about finances. There is no doubt that finances can create a lot of stress and drama in homes!! When we are unconscious our reaction is to blame each other - that we individually spent too much money! Life can throw you financial curve balls, however something that Lyell and I do is focus on creating and this take a LOT of mental strength!! It's far easier to blame and fall into the stress! I remember last year when we were trying to sell our house and at times I felt shaky but my husband kept saying, "Hunni, it's sold! We've so got this". Recently when something big broke down in our house, I repeatedly said to my husband and the house, "We're powerful creators - how can we easily create this to be fixed/replaced?" We are so much stronger as a creative team, rather than unconsciously making each other wrong. Sending you so much love and joy xx

TRUST YOURSELF

Joy is in showing your children what it looks like to trust yourself!! I believe this is a lifelong lesson!! Trusting yourself is an absolute knowing in your body with the choices you make, the environments you thrive in and the people you love to connect with. My mother's instinct naturally wants to protect our son from pain/hurt so there are definitely times when I find myself saying, "Be careful", "Watch out", "Stay away from...". Of course there are times when your child's safety is a number one priority! However, I believe that to raise independent and happy children the gift of being able to trust yourself is such a valuable life lesson to be taught in all families. We naturally want to share our point of view, advise our children and save them from experiencing hurt, however, I believe the most important words we can say are, "Really trust YOU here". Sending you lots of love and joy xx

CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATION

Joy is in asking your family to be your biggest cheer squad in life! Conscious communication has been invaluable in our marriage and we've been practising it for many years!! There are many spaces where I've shared my vulnerabilities and now my husband naturally senses those spaces. It is so reassuring to have the belief of your family in moments of self doubt.  I've also asked for the supportive, positive affirmations I desired to hear in those vulnerable spaces. It has then been easy for Lyell to know how to support me and vice versa. For example, we support each other by using some of these phrases: "You've so got this" (BC tool), "I've got your back", "Trust yourself", "Are you choosing love or fear in this moment?" (inspired by Wayne Dyer). Sending you so much love and joy xx

PERSONAL POWER

Joy is in taking responsibility for YOU! Wow – this has been a big lesson for me! Taking responsibility means that there isn’t blame in your home. It isn’t someone else’s fault. When I was 21, there were so many spaces where I didn’t take responsibility for myself – I didn’t say ‘NO’, I didn’t teach people how to treat me, I didn’t value me and I then lived life very much from a victim mentality. I blamed my husband for choices that he did/didn’t make but it was me who gave away my personal power. Now our reality is very different. We both take responsibility for our choices. If we say we are going to do something and we don’t end up doing it, we own it. It is incredibly freeing to take back your personal power and openly communicate from a space of compassion if you haven’t followed through somewhere. There is so much more love in partnership when individuals are taking responsibility for their choices. Sending you so much love and joy xx

SHARING 'WHY' WITH YOUR CHILDREN

Joy is in sharing your ‘why’ with your children! As a teacher, the most popular question I was always asked was, “Why did you become a teacher miss?” Every school I taught in, the question was always the same; there was a deep curiosity about my choice and motivation!! I feel it is such a valuable exercise to share your why with everyone in your home – Why do you go to your job day in, day out? Or why do you choose to be a stay at home mother? Why do you work part time? Is it that you want to contribute an important message to the planet? Are you saving for a holiday, massage, time out for yourself? Are you desiring to create change in your field of work? If you’re not loving how you spend your days, also share that with your family and be so willing to receive ideas on how you could create your days to be vastly different. Family has shown me over and over again, how magical it is to receive from them – they so often have 'gold nuggets' that you may not have thought of before!! Sending you so much love and joy xx