February 06, 2021

HOW DEEP IS YOUR LOVE?

February 06, 2021/ Kirsten Reck

Happy New Year to you all! I'm back in clinic and back in your inbox sending you all big warm hugs. 😍

A close friend asked me the other day, 'What does your heart believe in?' and without hesitation, I answered, 'Love'. I have had the incredible gift of loving a man, my husband for 20 years now. 💖😍 However, it is a far cry from the idealised notion of love in film. The Bridgerton series got me good over the holidays - who doesn't fantacise on some level about living in an ostentatious castle, having every meal provided for you by your live in chef and only having one or two complications in their relationship? 🙌🌹💕

Most of us dream about experiencing romanticized love from a young age, but one thing I've definitely found in my relationship and through my work, is we can do a pretty great job at pushing it away. 🧨⚡ There are so many reactive behaviours we may partake in to prove we are unlovable, unworthy or not enough. 💕

Perhaps you may relate to some of the following. I think I've tried them all on at some point 😂:

* I'm always right and my partner is wrong, however underlying that may be a fear of 'feeling or being wrong'. 💨

* perfection - keeping everything together - there is no space for yourself or your partner's imperfections.

* holding the past against yourself or your partner, which validates your unworthiness. 💥

* defending and protecting against the fear of hurt. 'I'll never let anyone in again', so you protect by not being completely open and honest. 💫

At the core of it all is a feeling of 'not enough', so it can feel like a bottomless pit 🕳🕳 - never satisfied with the love we give or receive. So my loves, what if we saved all of that energy that is used to push others away and instead leaned into experiencing a greater and deeper capacity to love ourselves.

Here are a few of my self love practices that I engage in each day and feel free to share yours with me 💖:

*Morning pages - journaling 3 pages of affirmations, gratitude and what I desire to create (inspired by 'The Artist's Way' by Julia Cameron)

*I have my Vision chart in my room - I affirm all of my heart's dreams aloud as if they have already manifested.

*Affirm one of Louise Hay's affirmations (she has so many amazing ones): 'Deep at the centre of my being there is an infinite well of love. I now allow this love to flow to the surface - it fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The supply is endless'.

*One of Edith Eger's (author of The Gift - Auschwitz survivor) affirmations - eg 'Kirsten (insert your own name), you're one of a kind. You're beautiful. May you be more and more YOU every day'.

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Please know that you are so welcome to email me back if you have any questions, feedback or if there is anything I can help you with. 💚 Here's to creating Emotionally Happy Homes® from the inside out. 💕

Sending you all so much love,

Kirsten

December 03, 2020

AM I THERE YET?

December 03, 2020/ Kirsten Reck

You know how you set an intention or goal and after a week, you're like surely I must be there now - come on already? I had that feeling this week, when I decided I'd love to ride my bike 🚲 to the swimming pool. 💦 A few days later, I'm thinking my muscles must be rippling by now. 🦾💪 But no, in fact they're not rippling, they're just really sore from not using those particular muscles for a long time! 😂🤔🤣

To be honest, it can feel a lot more fun to reap the fruits of your creation rather than the practice! 🥭🍋🍊 In my case, to be able to bike ride to the top of the hill (okay it was more like an incline!) without hopping off and walking. 💨✨🌈

Who doesn't love to savour the taste of a freshly grown mango or mulberries? 🥑🍌🍋 However, it can take time to strengthen the trunk/branches, so that the tree can easily and effortlessly yield fruit. 🍐🍏 It may require experiences with strong winds or storms 💨💫💥 to really ascertain the strength of one's trunk or posture. 🌱

Sometimes, it requires uncomfortable conversations, quiet contemplation, leaps of faith, asking for help or turning around uncomfortable 'stories' you've held onto for a long time about family members. 💕💚💖

Perhaps Franklin Roosevelt was onto something when he said, 'Smooth sails don't make skillful sailors'. ⛵💨🤣

However, those stormy seas can feel just as rewarding when you realise you are different in the same space. When you notice you don't react, speak freely, start to offer a different point of view or practice saying no. ☯🌻🙏

Before long you may start to notice that you stand more proudly, your backbone is strong and you are in acceptance of who you are - a beautiful contribution to the whole. The fruit will taste yummier, all the more for it! 😍💗💌

Where could you be patient with the strengthening of your trunk? 🙏

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Sending you all so much love,

Kirsten

P.S. If you would love personal awareness to support you in connecting deeply to who you are, your heart and higher self, please call our office angels, Jane or Suzy at Step Up Your Life, Coolum Beach on: 07 5351 1970. Can be done via Skype/phone or in person 🙏💟🎉😍

November 11, 2020

SHARE WHO YOU ARE

November 11, 2020/ Kirsten Reck

In the old paradigm, one word that is synonymous with parenthood or partnership is 'sacrifice'. 💨 I know that when I've felt I have to forgo something that I would love or haven't felt free, I've experienced resentment or anger. 💥 Then I've felt guilty experiencing those emotions. ☯

In these moments it can be easy to forget that you're not your emotions - you're having an experience with them to understand who you are on a deeper level. You are infinite, unique and magnificent! 🎉✨💜 This is where awareness is gold - your emotions are desiring to be understood and it's not always what you think. 😊🤗 They are attempting to open you up to a deeper intelligence, presence or awakening in yourself. 🤩💟🌈🙏

There is undoubtedly a new way where you can have it all! 🎆 From my experience using the Emotionally Happy Homes® systems, the key is knowing and fully accepting who you are and consciously communicating that with your loved one's. 🌻🌼

Everyone can win in a home - it's possible to all live harmoniously in the same orchard even if you're a mango, pear, macadamia or apple tree! 🌹🍌🍋🍐You may just need different nutrients depending on how you naturally thrive in an environment. 💦🌻🌱

These are a few examples from our life. 🎈 I've explained to our 6 yr old son that the following 'loves' are like sunshine to our leaves or rain nourishing our root systems. It encourages him to also explore who he is through play, his imagination or in nature. For my partner and I to thrive in our environment here are a few ways that we independently support ourselves:

I love healing and contributing awareness so there will be times when I'm texting it, talking to Jules (creator of healing systems), awareness swaps on Mon nights or writing client emails. 😍🌈✨ I love a lot of space to myself - swimming is my meditation 💦 and reading for pleasure. 🙌🙏

Lyell, my partner, loves the beach 💦 so that's where he is every Sunday morning and some mornings before he leaves for his job. Music soothes his soul, so many afternoons are spent singing, song writing and playing his guitar. 🎸🎼🎶

What supports you to be all of who you are? ✨🎇🎉

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Sending you all so much love,

Kirsten

November 07, 2020

MORE HEART - LESS PUSH

November 07, 2020/ Kirsten Reck

I was reminded of one of my favourite Brene Brown quotes this week, 'Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up when we have no control over the outcome'. 😍🌺

I have a vivid memory of hungrily devouring Brene's books when they first came out. I would sit curled up in bed underlining all of my favourite phrases, savoring in her research on vulnerability, shame and courage. ✨💫 Her books were a wonderful buffet for my incessant appetite on understanding the human psyche. 🎆

I had a vulnerable moment this week when my usual rhythm of going for a swim didn't go as planned. 😊 There was just no way my body felt to go and I felt myself experience this internal battle of whether I 'should' push through. 💪 How often do we persuade ourselves when we're not feeling it to 'suck it up', 'push through', 'go hard' or 'not give up'? 🌼🌻

I surrendered into my female energy of being. Despite the initial emotional wobble of thinking I should be moving my body, I found myself reading a book on our couch outside in the sunshine and it was pure bliss. 🌈

I have found that when we are in our natural biological flow, life flows, just like nature. 🌱💚🌱 When the whole ecosystem is supporting itself, everything is aligned and everything in it thrives. 🌳🌲 Similarly, this is the same in family. It is so helpful to understand one another's natural rhythms in a home.

Can you easily surrender to your natural alignment? 🤍 Here are a few places you could explore:

* When does your body naturally feel to go to sleep? Does it love to sleep in or wake up early? 💤😴

* What exercise works for your body? Do you love a structure with exercise? Or do you prefer to exercise when your body feels to? 🧘‍♀️🏄‍♀️🏊‍♂️🤽‍♀️

*Do you love to cook, clean and do it all yourself? Or do you love the support of cleaners, babysitters, food that's easy to prepare?

When you become aware of the spaces where you feel you 'have to' push through, it can be fun to explore what other possibilities there are that you naturally align with. Happy exploring! 💖🌈

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Sending you all so much love,

Kirsten

P.S. I am now available in clinic on Saturdays as well🎉

P.P.S. If you would love personal awareness to support you in connecting deeply to who you are, your heart and higher self, please call our office angels, Jane or Suzy at Step Up Your Life, Coolum Beach on: 07 5351 1970. Can be done via Skype/phone or in person 🙏💟🎉😍

September 23, 2020

ENERGETIC HANGOVER

September 23, 2020/ Kirsten Reck

Do you get energetic hangovers? They remind me of my uni days where being hungover was like a rite of passage! 💥You'd wake up from a big night out, eyes all crusty, your own stale breath making you feel queasy and light shining in blinding you because you forgot to close the curtain again before crashing into bed. 🤢😵🤪 The first thought is: where can I get fried food and fast!? And the second thought is: I'm never drinking again! 😂😊

Well, energetic hangovers can feel the same! You kind of wonder how you got yourself here! 🤔😏🥴 It's usually because you fell out of your natural flow and alignment. 💖 You're also usually left with a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. It most often involves a situation where you felt: I should, have to, need to do this because if I don't I'm going to get into trouble! 💥💥

This is where your body is invaluable in understanding your natural flow. Because if you're out of alignment bodies create different symptoms to get our attention. 💫It may be subtle (insecurity, paranoia, crying etc.) or it may feel like a big bang (illness, survival stress, can't get out of bed)! 💨💫💥

My body goes straight to fatigue and that's when I know it has a few things it wants to chat to me about. 😍 It's always attempting to lead me to a deeper understanding of who I am and what my heart and higher self desires. 💚🌈☮What I love the most is it is supporting me to spiritually grow and evolve.

I liken it to one of my most favourite rhythms in the morning. 🌱 Ethan and I will venture out into our garden; I love standing on the morning dew, barefoot, connected to our beautiful earth. 🌈🌱🌼 We shout with excitement as we discover new flower buds, new leaves, new strawberries, seeds breaking through the surface and relishing in the miracle of growth that has magically appeared over night. 🎆🎉✨

It can feel equally exciting when you notice your own internal growth - where you show up differently in the same space.

Perhaps you start to be more present with spaces where you feel you should, need to or must and instead:

Speak up more and authentically express how you feel. 💟
Embody the knowing that there is nothing wrong with you and it is safe to say no.
Tune into your heart before deciding whether to attend a social gathering. 🌱🙏🙌
Be open with when you would love space to yourself.
Share when when you're not feeling to cook or clean.

What about you beautiful soul? Where is your growth? Where have you noticed that you are different in the same space? 🌻🌼

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Sending you all so much love,

Kirsten

P.S. I am on holidays now until the 29th of September. 💟

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