LET'S TALK ABOUT INTIMACY
/Happy Wednesday! How has your week been? 💟💞
Love rocks - like REALLY rocks! 😊💕👌 I'll always be grateful for the day, 20 years ago when I first spotted a gorgeous guy (now my husband) walking past me outside the university library. 🌈🌱💟 Thank goodness I had the courage to introduce myself! 💞😊
It is an area of my life that has offered SO MUCH internal growth, because who doesn't want to experience a deep, unconditional love, right? 🌈☯☮ 🌺🌼 To what extent can we be unconditional with our love for our partner, despite the biggest heart pains - betrayal, imperfections, perceived mistakes, trust issues? I felt ready to take unconditional to a whole new level this week. Eeekkk!!! 💙💦
So, Jules and I did our usual weekly Emotionally Happy Homes® awareness swap. I'm always excited to understand and explore my growth for the week. What would the internal shift be so my external life reflected all that was in my heart? 💖💕💞 It came up sex!?! 💖💞
We firstly explored how unconditional I could be with my husband. ☮☯🌈 So, if for whatever reason, my husband felt to have a sexual experience with another woman, could I love him through it even though it would rip my heart out? 💥 Okay - perhaps a little melodramatic - there was a lot of resistance! 💕💞💖
Am I suggesting sleeping with other people outside your partnership to explore unconditional love - NO. It can be messy and painful - but it's something that I know personally would be a BIG stumbling block for me in practicing unconditional love. 🌈💕💖
So I said to him this week, without any expectations on the outcome, eager to lean into a new experience, 'Hey love, I want you to know that I love you unconditionally. Like, for example, if you ever felt chemistry or attraction with someone else, I want you to know that you could always be open with me and we'd talk it out. I want to believe that I could unconditionally love you through that'. 🙏💜☮
He said, 'Love, that's not even in my consciousness. I have no desire to be with anyone else but you'. 🙏🌈💚 So I thought, okay awesome - at least I've reminded him he's unconditionally loved, can be open and my intention would be to always be unconditional with him. 💕💟💖
I went to bed thinking - I've so got this! 🤣🌺💪 I'm on my way to unconditional! 🎉✨Yeahhhh! 💖💕💖 However, my dream that night had something else to say! My dream began with my husband and I camping ⛺🌄⛺ (mmm... I think my dream state forgot that I'm a creature of comfort - luxury accommodation of some sort would've been nice 😂🤣).
We were both having a lovely time together in the dream, when suddenly a woman appeared and my husband disappeared with her. 🤔 Okay - yes my dream was very cheeky! 🙄😏🤨When I caught them both together - I was hurt and furious! 🥴😳😵💨💥💥
Okay - so maybe I'm not quite there with the whole unconditional thing, but my intention is to be! 😊😍 How unconditional can you be with your partner, despite differences, hurt, pain, imperfections or perceived mistakes? 💫✨
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Please know that you are so welcome to email me back if you have any questions, feedback or if there is anything I can help you with. 💚 Here's to creating Emotionally Happy Homes® from the inside out. 💕
Sending you all so much love,
Kirsten
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