I know that the path to joy is authenticity, truth and accountability and I am choosing to share with you something, which definitely makes me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. I have for many years had an expectation on my husband to make me happy. I have compared him to my father, brother, other men and I wonder how he has not buckled under the weight of my expectation. I have also felt that I was responsible for his happiness. I really believe that we all can place a tremendous amount of expectation on our partners, children, friends, careers and businesses to make us feel loved and happy. I have wanted my dream house, a luxurious holiday, expensive nights out and much more and wondered when I received these things, why I didn’t suddenly feel joy!!?? My joy has now come in the following: close connections with family and friends, affection (cuddles), watching my son play, help in the home from my husband, colouring in mandalas, nature walks on my own, sitting in our hammock on the veranda, time together as a family etc. One can never put a price on love: this is the value and quality that fills me up!! I would encourage everyone to voice to all of your loved ones, “I free you from my expectations… I am responsible for my own happiness. You do not need to do or be anything other than who you are. You are enough and I am enough”. Feel free to also share in the comments below where you may have placed expectation on someone or something. Sending you all so much love and joy xx


If you are willing to authentically open up, share and ask for what you need in family, it can be a space for you to feel free to be all of YOU!! I have found being in family at times really challenging and even thought, life would be so much easier on my own!! However, I feel at times, this thought has come from not always speaking up with what I need to give myself in family. Sometimes, I have had to experience some challenging spaces to be reminded that I'm not honouring who I am. Now I do whatever it takes to create freedom for myself in family, because it is what makes me feel happy!! For example, ask for help, ask family to babysit, pay babysitters, daycare, designated time each week for me to exercise and have time on my own etc. If you're not feeling happy in family, perhaps ask yourself what is it that I need to feel happy?? Secondly, be courageous and share this with your family. I'm sure that you can all come up with some great ideas on how you can give yourself what it is you need. You may just need to really think outside the box!! Sending you lots of love and joy xx