PERSONAL POWER

Joy is in taking responsibility for YOU! Wow – this has been a big lesson for me! Taking responsibility means that there isn’t blame in your home. It isn’t someone else’s fault. When I was 21, there were so many spaces where I didn’t take responsibility for myself – I didn’t say ‘NO’, I didn’t teach people how to treat me, I didn’t value me and I then lived life very much from a victim mentality. I blamed my husband for choices that he did/didn’t make but it was me who gave away my personal power. Now our reality is very different. We both take responsibility for our choices. If we say we are going to do something and we don’t end up doing it, we own it. It is incredibly freeing to take back your personal power and openly communicate from a space of compassion if you haven’t followed through somewhere. There is so much more love in partnership when individuals are taking responsibility for their choices. Sending you so much love and joy xx

TRUTH

I know that the path to joy is authenticity, truth and accountability and I am choosing to share with you something, which definitely makes me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. I have for many years had an expectation on my husband to make me happy. I have compared him to my father, brother, other men and I wonder how he has not buckled under the weight of my expectation. I have also felt that I was responsible for his happiness. I really believe that we all can place a tremendous amount of expectation on our partners, children, friends, careers and businesses to make us feel loved and happy. I have wanted my dream house, a luxurious holiday, expensive nights out and much more and wondered when I received these things, why I didn’t suddenly feel joy!!?? My joy has now come in the following: close connections with family and friends, affection (cuddles), watching my son play, help in the home from my husband, colouring in mandalas, nature walks on my own, sitting in our hammock on the veranda, time together as a family etc. One can never put a price on love: this is the value and quality that fills me up!! I would encourage everyone to voice to all of your loved ones, “I free you from my expectations… I am responsible for my own happiness. You do not need to do or be anything other than who you are. You are enough and I am enough”. Feel free to also share in the comments below where you may have placed expectation on someone or something. Sending you all so much love and joy xx

HOLDING SPACE

I am so passionate about creating a happy, healthy and authentic home. I have held the space with my husband for many years now about my desire to create a conscious home, with warm, loving connections and where we are accountable, take responsibility and authentically share. Therefore, I was so inspired the other night, when my husband authentically shared with me (I was in a funky space with technology!), “I know and see you in these spaces. You are pulling on me right now and wanting me to fix this for you”. In the past, I would have defended, however, I was so grateful for his set of eyes on me. My response was, “You are so right. Please hold the belief for me that I can do this and that this laptop is my friend!!” How many times do we automatically step in to fix something with our loved ones, instead of empowering them with our belief, that they have it within themselves to create their own magic?? Joy is in holding the belief for yourself and others that you can create your deepest desires. I can honestly say that we now live in a conscious home; I have held the belief that I could create this and drawn on my fierce, inner strength many times (Just ask my husband:))!! Sending you so much love and joy xx