A NEW DEFINITION - MARRIAGE/PARTNERSHIP
/Happy Monday! How has your week been? 💟💞
We decided to take a walk down memory lane these holidays. 🎭🖼Our destination was Hervey Bay where we would spend 4 days. However, en route we chose to drive past our first house in Maryborough, where we used to live 17 years ago. 🏡
As we drove closer, I felt trepidation. I wasn't sure that I wanted to take a glimpse into our old life - it was one I could no longer relate to. ☮💨 I was curious though, what would come to the surface - had I completely healed everything from that life? 🌼✨💞
And there we were - parked in front of our Old Queenslander home, with it's big sweeping veranda. 🏡🌼I remember the excitement we felt on the day we'd been handed the keys. Now it held all our secrets. 👌👏🤸♂️🤸♀️ I let the memories come. It had been a year of firsts: our first year of marriage, the first house we bought and my first year as a high school teacher. 💑
On the outside everything looked great - making good money, first home, stable job and married, but on the inside of that home, life had been very messy. Marriage at that time had personified hard, struggle, sacrifice, resentment and compromise. 😥🤯😭
Instead of questioning the structure of marriage that seemed to be socially revered, I questioned myself in trying to fit into it: 'There must be something very 'wrong' with me'.🤔🤔 All of our family and societal patterns and programs had come to the surface, but we didn't have the tools at that time to know what to do with it all! 💥💨💥
The over riding emotions I felt as I gazed upon our old home was sadness, as well as a deep compassion for my 23 year old self, who felt she needed to shut down so many parts of herself to fit in. 💖💖However, I felt incredible gratitude for our present life and it was a great reminder that the past never has to define you. You can die to it every day and rebirth something new. 🙏🙏
I attribute my personal transformation to internal growth - a willingness to continue shedding and freeing myself from all the societal and family conditioning. Growth can also be a never ending adventure, as exciting as an overseas trip! 💚🌈💚
It has been fun to create a life free from fulfilling the different roles (mother, parent, wife, career woman etc), and live based on my values and who I am. A life that works for me rather than me working for my life. The 'work' is all internal. 💟✨🎆 I'm so grateful to Jules and her amazing Emotionally Happy Homes® systems which are such an invaluable tool to offer deep insight into who you are. 😊😘😍🌈
Our definition of marriage/partnership now is a very abundant one. 💕💖 The love and joy is in supporting one another with: our internal growth, heart's dreams, living according to our highest values and with becoming the best and happiest version of ourselves. 🌱🌺🌼 I love Abraham Hick's quote where she says, "Make a 'career' of living a happy life". 🎉🌻🌼
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Please know that you are so welcome to email me back if you have any questions, feedback or if there is anything I can help you with. 💚 Here's to creating Emotionally Happy Homes® from the inside out. 💕
Sending you all so much love,
Kirsten
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