WHAT DO YOU NEED

To be honest, there have been times when I've felt exhausted, drained and frustrated in my marriage and I've blamed my husband!! There are times when I've lived in reactive behaviours like blame, control and my past favourite was the silent treatment!! Yes I have imperfections, but that's okay!! I think that as women we can sometimes underestimate our own inner strength, capabilities and power to create for ourself!! I certainly realised my inner strength after birthing a baby... now if you've birthed one baby and gone back for more that makes you superhuman, invincible and you definitely have super powers!! I believe these reactive behaviours find us when we are out of alignment with WHO we are. A question that Lyell and I ask each other when we are in these spaces is: "What do you need to give yourself right now??" My answer usually revolves around needing time to myself. However, if we're not sure what it is, we have an amazing tool that we use everyday in our home, Body Consciousness/Women's Wisdom, which was created by Jules O'Neill. This is a system, which has helped us receive clarity on who we are, what we love and what we need in order to thrive as individuals and as a family. I believe the clearer we are on what it is that we love to give ourselves, the more joy we experience!! Sending you heaps of joy and love xx

ON YOUR PATH

I love helping people to find/step onto their path!! Perhaps this is because I spent a few years completely off my path. I had stopped valuing ME and instead sought to please others, all to the detriment of my health. Looking back, I felt so much discomfort in my body during those years but I chose to ignore it. It eventually manifested in Chronic Fatigue for 8 long years!! I buried all of my feelings deep down so they couldn't be felt until I felt nothing/numb. It felt easier/safer not to confront what I was feeling. My greatest fear was that if I spoke up and shared authentically that I would lose love!! One of the most important lessons I have learnt from this is to always speak up in your relationship/partnership. I share everything with my husband: feelings, ideas, fears, insecurities, frustrations, when I'm not feeling valued or I'm not valuing myself, my excitements, what I need etc!! Opening up/speaking up and "leaning into discomfort" (Brené Brown) has always created a much closer connection!! Sending you so much love and joy xx

HOLDING SPACE

I am so passionate about creating a happy, healthy and authentic home. I have held the space with my husband for many years now about my desire to create a conscious home, with warm, loving connections and where we are accountable, take responsibility and authentically share. Therefore, I was so inspired the other night, when my husband authentically shared with me (I was in a funky space with technology!), “I know and see you in these spaces. You are pulling on me right now and wanting me to fix this for you”. In the past, I would have defended, however, I was so grateful for his set of eyes on me. My response was, “You are so right. Please hold the belief for me that I can do this and that this laptop is my friend!!” How many times do we automatically step in to fix something with our loved ones, instead of empowering them with our belief, that they have it within themselves to create their own magic?? Joy is in holding the belief for yourself and others that you can create your deepest desires. I can honestly say that we now live in a conscious home; I have held the belief that I could create this and drawn on my fierce, inner strength many times (Just ask my husband:))!! Sending you so much love and joy xx